Friendship blog......

So the internet has all these sites that allow you to connect with old friends, and even make new ones. (facebook, myspace, twitter etc.) Anyway the key word here is "FRIEND". I want to take this oppotunity to take this word and analyze it a little bit. Ive been a little hesitate to post something like this for fear that the right words would not come out or it wouldnt sound how I wanted it to sound. But after reading different things on facebook and looking at different videos on youtube about this particular topic i think it's about time that my voice is heard.

So I would like to start off by giving you the reader the scientific definiton of the word "FRIEND". The webster online dictionary states "Main Entry: 1friend
Pronunciation: \ˈfrend\
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English frend, from Old English frēond; akin to Old High German friunt friend, Old English frēon to love, frēo free
Date: before 12th century
1 a : one attached to another by affection or esteem b : acquaintance
2 a : one that is not hostile b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group
3 : one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)
4 : a favored companion
5 capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war —called also Quaker

— friend·less \ˈfren(d)-ləs\ adjective

— friend·less·ness noun

— be friends with : to have a friendship or friendly relationship with".


So now that we have to scientific definiton lets define this word ourselves.. Now everyone has had their fair share of friends come and go. But who is truly your friedn, what seperates a friend from an associate or an aquantice?? These are questions that everyone needs to ask themsevles.

I think that most people have the misconception that having tons of friends is what defines them.. WRONG!!! People define themselves. Friends are just another form of a support system thats outside of family.

But what really makes a person your friend?? I think that a true friend is someone who accepts you for you no matter what. This means accepting your many flaws, because no one is perfect not even them. A friend is getting to an argument and then laughing about it later. A friend is just plain ol being there when needed no matter what time or whats goin on. No one seems to have these qualities anymore. People are too quick to call other people their "friend"...

On a more personal note I dont have many friends and that is by choice. I have grown to learn that not everyone has your best interest at heart and that many people are just around for a limited time like your favorite burger at a fast food resturant. I've also learned that just because I dont consider a certain person to be my "friend" doesnt mean that they don't consider me to be their friend. During my life I have gained friendships and I've lost friendships as well. However I am blessed to say that I have met these wonderful people and I pray that I will meet more people to add to the few friends that I have kept over the years. And the ones that I didnt keep well lets just say that it doesnt matter who's fault it is. It was God's will that we arent friends anymore. I guess we werent meant for each other. Im not mad and I hope that they arent either. But if they are then that's something that they need to deal with. I wish them blessings and I keep them in my prayers.

Boy beat to death in Chicago......

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As a native of Chicago I have to say that I am outraged, shocked and most importantly embarrassed. I cannot believe that this is something that authority figures would even let take place. I mean really what has the world come to??? Its not good enough that our children have to deal with drugs and gangs on a daily basis but now they have to fear getting beat to death while either on their way to school or from school.

I think the biggest question would have to be what are these parents teaching their children? The lack of parenting is a huge problem in the African-American community. "Babies having babies" seems to be the term that fits here. Parents in this day and age are leaving it to the rappers, and television programs to raise their children. No on is taking responsibility to raise these children and keep them focused.

Since this incident has happened I have listened to how everyone is sooo upset about what happened what does everyone plan to do about it??? People are so quick to point the finger and blame everyone else when the truth is we need to blame ourselves. Like the saying goes "It takes a village to raise a child" we need to go back to this same mentality. When our parents were growing up it was ok for the other parents on the block to discipline other people's children but now parents cant even discipline their own children without going to jail or worse case scenario getting beat down by their own children.

I think that we as a people we need to take this incident and wake up!!! The time is now to take back our children and put them on the right path. They need guidance and instead of turning our backs like the problem doesn't exist we need to show the right way. "

Train a child up in the way that he should go and he will not stray."

So today a friend of mine asked the question "Why is it sexy for girls to like girls until they stop liking dudes?” Good question right?? I thought so.. But my question tonight goes beyond men. My question is for all of those straight women who are ultimately afraid to be themselves. "Why are straight women so afraid to be themselves? Meaning if your a straight woman who is sexually attracted to other women why act as if it is something gross or its something that you would never do?

In my opinion majority of all straight women are in some way or another attracted to other women. I mean the signs are obvious... Women don't dress to impress men they dress to impress other women, to see the reactions that they get from other women, the looks, the compliments etc. Its easy for a women to say that another woman looks good or is pretty, when its harder for a man to compliment another man.

The fact that most women have insecurities and are uncomfortable with their sexuality just makes it harder for them to be themselves. I believe (and again these are just my opinions) that these same women who are always talking about how they "Strictly Dickly" and whatever else it is that they claim to be would just take the time out to just let go and accept themselves for who they are then they would be able to act upon their feelings. It is these same women who give bisexual and lesbian women a hard time about their sexuality. I think that these women look up to bisexual and lesbian women because they aren't afraid to live life for themselves and no one else. They aren't afraid to say that they love women or they love men and women for fear of what the next person might say.

Looking back i used to be ones of these females. I used to find myself fantasizing about other females and secretly checking them out all while having a boyfriend and talking to guys. When in fact it was never the guy that i wanted, it was their sister or female friend or ex-girlfriend even. But when i got the courage to look beyond what everyone else thought about me and what i liked I became a better person inside and out. I've never been happier!!!! I'd take happiness (or as my friend would say being GAY) over being insecure and scared any day.

I used to LOVE you..........

Just sitting here thinking about the times we spent together, the times we coulda spent together, and all the times we didnt....

I used to love you til the point that i was ready and willing to do whatever you wanted me to. Leave ppl, be with you and only you. I used to love you til I could love you no more. Even when i knew deep down inside you didnt feel the same way about me. I loved then and you probably think I love you still.

I know your wondering why i'm writing this and well the answer is simple. To let you know that my love or the love that i thought i felt for you is gone. I'm happy now and not you or anyone else can take that away from me. I have found someone that I love and that i am in love and who acutally feels the same way. I've found someone who touches me in ways that you have never touched me. Someone who knows what i'm worth. Which is just more than just a piece of ass. Someone who spends time with me all the time and not just when its convient.
Loving you made me feel like i could never be loved the way that i was loved. And now that i've found my special someone i knw that this isnt true. I am now aware of my self-worth. You are NOT worthy of loving not even having someone like me. Someone who is PRICELESS!!! Someone who means so much more than just sex, someone who puts her all into loving a boy like you.....

This isnt just for you but for all of the BOYS that i've dealt with throught my life. For the BOYS who thought they were men. FOR THE BOYS who never did anything for me expect bring me headache and pain. FOR THE BOYS who took me for granted, treated me like shit, and never cared.

These are the same BOYS that i'm thanking for making me so much stronger, making me realize that I DESERVE BETTER, that i'm worth so much more. The ones that let me go. The ones that will never have me again. The ones that lead me to the one that i'm with now. For SHE and SHE alone loves me just as hard as I love her.


I USED TO LOVE YOU.......

Gay Rights accross the board.....

So the debate about LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered) has come up yet once again.

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In my opinion no one is ready for this type of change. The LGBT community has been and will always be looked down upon, because it's "different". "Straight" people don't think that we should have the same rights or even be treated equally to them. I say we because this is a topic that hits home for me. Being a lesbian woman in a committed relationship it's hard having to go places and be stared at like some sort of science project. When the fact remains that if people didn't see me and my girlfriend together they would automatically assume that I was "straight" just like them.

I think that the debate for equal rights for the LGBT community has become some what similar to the fight for equal rights in the African-American community. Its a struggle and a lot of people don't seem to see it as such. But we are people just like everyone else. We feel, love, get angry, want to get married, have children, serve in the military openly, and we want to do this without it being a problem. We just want to be able to live in the country that is supposed to be "THE LAND OF THE FREE".

LOVE, LIFE, AND DEATH

As humans go through this thing called life each one of us will utimately experience all of the following.... Life, Love, and Death. We will be born into this world alone hopefully get the chance to love someone during our time here and then we will leave here just like we came in ALONE!

So why does everyone take life and love and just look at them like its nothing? Life is taken away just as fast as its given and well love most ppl only experience this once in a lifetime.

Being around death really puts things into persepective. There really is no in-between so to speak. There's just life and then death nothing more nothing less. Hopefully we all get the chance to live our lives the way we wanted or the way they were intended and maybe even get the chance to love someone while we're alive but then we die.... Death can happen at anytime but yet ppl still treat life as if we are all gonna live forever. Ppl take the word "love" and just throw it around like trash. If you really love someone then there should be no reason for you treat that person the way that they get treated.

Loving and living life should be something that we all should cherish everyday. Being in love is something that doesnt come natural to everyone. It doesnt even get the chance to fill everyone's hearts. But it seems like the ones that do get the chance to love dont want the opportunity.



(something that i wrote a while back..)